With the current COVID-19 pandemic, we’re hearing from many families who are either experiencing additional challenges related to limited access to therapy and social isolation, or are struggling to find support for existing challenges when so many services are unavailable. 

Most of us recognize that our children benefit from routine, and that they absorb the stress that we are experiencing as parents, so it’s not surprising that families are needing additional support right now. One of the great things about our HCAF community is that there are so many parents who can identify with what your family is working on. Many times there are people who can direct you to resources that worked for them. 

Here are a couple questions that have come our way recently. Please use the comments to share your experiences, and any resources that you’ve found to be helpful. (Note: This is not a replacement of professional advice from a trained therapist.) 

HCAF has always been a wonderful community of adoptive families who are there for each other. The supportive nature of our camp and organization are here for you now and always. We have to stick together – it’s what we do! 

Question #1

“I am writing to you as a parent of an adopted 14 year old boy who I suspect is struggling with RAD.  We’ve been coming to camp for years. Lately his behaviors are escalating and we are at our wits end and not sure what to do. I have been looking at residential boarding programs but there are so many, they are extremely expensive and it is hard to know which programs are effective. 

Would you know of any programs that support kids with RAD, or other parents that have experienced the same thing?  It is so hard to get a diagnosis, and to get a counselor (we have had several and failed) who can be effective.”

Question #2

“We would love to hear from other families who have experience with wilderness programs, and whether they found them to be effective. We have tried conventional therapy with our teen since she was young. I’ve heard of other families who have enrolled their adopted children in wilderness programs, but I have questions about whether it could possibly re-traumatize someone and make things worse. I’m hoping to help my teen acknowledge their struggles, get to the root of the problem, and build healthy coping skills.”